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27: Got Rage? How to Move Through a Parenting Shame Spiral

Ever feel like your teen knows exactly how to push your buttons - or you're on edge a lot —and before you know it, you’re snapping, yelling, and instantly regretting it?

You’re not alone.

In this episode, I dive into:

✔️ Why we lose our cool—and how to recognize your biggest triggers
✔️ Simple self-regulation techniques to stop reacting and start responding
✔️ Practical strategies to communicate with your teen without tension or blow-ups If parenting your teen has felt more like a battle than a bond, it’s time to change the dynamic.

[00:43] - Breaking the Rage-Shame Cycle in Parenting
[01:23] - The Outdated Belief That Parenting Teens Is Terrible
[03:37] - Why We Really Explode as Parents
[04:44] - How Invisible Stress Triggers Rage
[05:22] - The Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fawn Response in Parenting
[06:41] - How Rage Breaks Trust with Our Teens
[09:20] - The First Step to Stopping a Rage Spiral
[011:16] - How to Signal Safety to Your Nervous System
[12:04] - Rage Doesn’t End With More Rage
[12:49] - The Most Important Thing to Preserve in Parenting
[13:45] - Why Breaking the Rage Cycle is Life-Changing Work
[14:30] - The Number One Way to Influence Your Teen

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